I know it is not easy dealing with insecurities. To be feeling vulnerable, unsafe and unable to find comfort in anything, it can take a huge toll on you. Mentally, physically but mostly emotionally. I know you just can’t seem to stop worrying about what people may think of you or what they say behind your back. I know that no matter how hard you try, it is never enough. I know that each time you think you are the best, there is always someone else that is better or has things easier. Sometimes you need someone to support you but at the same time you want to be alone. It is difficult to explain. I understand. Dealing with insecurities is not an easy thing.
People are always asking you to love yourself and be happy with the way you are. They don’t understand that it is just not that easy. They point out a few good things about you and expect you to be happy immediately. It is not as easy as they think it is to feel good about yourself. You know they mean well.
You have to know this. There are ways for you to overcome your insecurities. First, forgive and let go of your past. Whatever happened then cannot be changed and will not happen again because you know better now. You have gone through the scenario many times in your head and you may not know this, but you are prepared to face it again if at all it happens again.
Next, listen to criticism and learn to differentiate them. Some are meant to be constructive but some are just said out of ill intent. The non-constructive ones are usually because someone with inflated self-esteem is reassuring himself or herself. Nevertheless, you do not need anyone’s approval to do what you want to do or feel the way you feel.
Also, social media has a way of making you feel really bad about yourself. Trust me, I know. Don’t compare yourself to anyone. You are unique as your own the way that person is.
“Each of us is a unique strand in the intricate web of life and here to make a contribution”.
This is from Deepak Chopra, not me.
Lastly, you are not alone. Please understand that we are all a work in progress. No one is perfect although some people may seem like they are. Everyone is dealing with their own insecurities just like how everyone has their own demons.
You are not being forced to do the things mentioned above. Just ponder over this for a few days, see if you are ready. If you are not ready yet, it’s okay. Take your time. Someday, you will turn back and see through your very own eyes that there was no reason for you to feel the way you do because you are awesome just as you are.
Kiirtaara is a proud 24 year old Malaysian from the small town of Ipoh. She is a Bachelor of Psychology (Hons) graduate and is currently a part-time freelance writer with a full time job. She is also a huge mental-health enthusiast and avid animal lover.