Most people tend to confuse happiness with success. We focus on the wrong goals and even become delusional at some point. We think the more we achieve, the happier we will be. But the truth is, the college degree, high-flying job, relationship, or expensive things we think we need will never fulfill our desire for long-term happiness. When we constantly chase after people, things, or status, we will not leave much time and energy for what we really need to be happy in life. Finding true happiness is not exactly rocket science. It just boils down to one thing. You.Here’s why all you need for true happiness is you:
1) Your heart plays a bigger role than you think
Forget about what you think you should be in order to fit in, impress others, or feel better about yourself. If you want to be happy, you have to listen to your own heart. Figure out what it is you really want in life and go after it. Allow yourself to hope and discover your true passions. It may take a while, but it’s not a crime to live at your own pace. If you already know what you truly desire, then do whatever it takes to make it happen. Stop making excuses or finding reasons not to pursue your dreams. They may be valid reasons, but you will only waste a good life when you keep contemplating instead of taking the leap. Amazing things could be waiting for you and all you have to do it jump.
2) How you see yourself determines your future
Be kinder to yourself because at the end of the day, you really are what you think. If you believe that you are not good enough, you will always be stuck in that dead-end job, bad relationship, or average life you wish you could get out of. Stop focusing on your past mistakes and weaknesses. You are allowed to make a few wrong turns. Don’t blame yourself or others for being where you are now. Just let it all go and you will feel lighter. Make room for positivity and embrace who you are or the person you’re meant to be. It is never too late to become the best version of yourself. Find what motivates or inspires you and move forward!
3) Your happiness is not in the hands of others
Learn to live with yourself no matter how messy, disorganised, or chaotic you think your life is. It’s okay to ask for help once in a while, but never depend on others to make you feel whole or important. You are capable of filling in the gaps yourself and all you have to do is try. You will get used to it after a while and you will end up being amazed by your own accomplishment. Trust yourself enough to stand on your own two feet. Give it time. Leave everything that you know is bad for you and don’t look back no matter how tempting it may be. Value yourself and your own worth. Once you do, the course of your life will change for the better and you will wish that you had started sooner.
Danila was a magazine writer focused on lifestyle topics and a communications specialist in the telecommunications industry where her work was published or broadcast via several offline and online media channels before shifting to freelance writing. Besides writing, she enjoys travel, taking photos, and reading.