It is easy to forget that happiness really does come from within. We sometimes get off track and rely on external sources to fill our so-called half empty glass. We also tend to resort to short-term happiness to feel fulfilled. Yes, it may help for a while, but if we continue to do these things, we will never be content.
We should all learn to take our power back for good in order to be truly happy. By regaining our responsibility instead of looking elsewhere, we will not only be happier, but we would be better individuals as well. Here are 7 ways on how to take charge of your own happiness.
1. Accept yourself for who you are
Maybe you think you’re not confident or talented enough. Always tell yourself that everyone has weaknesses and nobody is perfect. Stop focusing on the things you lack and let go of anything that you cannot change. Give yourself some credit and love yourself.
2. Stop complaining and blaming others
If you cannot stand your kids’ tantrums when they don’t get what they want, why allow it? If you’re still with a partner who cheated on you, why allow it? Instead of whining to your family and friends, do something about the things you can change.
3. Go after what you want
Trying to please everyone will only leave you with never-ending stress and anxiety. Sometimes, you really do need to put yourself first. Figure out what it is that you really want in life and start working towards your goal. What makes you happy?
4. Let go of control
Don’t let yourself get disappointed by trying to control everything in your life. Have some flexibility and have faith that it will all be okay in the end. When things don’t happen the way you want, take a deep breath and try to stay calm. Being upset over things you have no control of is just not worth it.
5. Don’t depend on short-term happiness
Your spouse. Online shopping. Binge-watching. These external sources are not going to make you happy in the long run. If you don’t look for happiness from within, you will go back to feeling empty and lost. You are responsible for your own happiness.
6. Practice compassion
Be more generous and compassionate. Try to help people in worse situations. It will give you a sense of peace and calmness even if your life is a mess. Tip the pizza delivery boy or masseuse. Donate. Help an old man cross the road. Even the smallest gestures can make someone’s day.
7. Put a stop to negativity
If you want to be happy, don’t waste your energy on negative things. The continuous cycle will only cause you mental exhaustion. When you let go of your worries, you will feel as if a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders and only then you will begin to make room for positivity.
“Happiness comes from within. It is not dependent on external things or on other people. You become vulnerable and can be easily hurt when your feelings of security and happiness depend on the behavior and actions of other people. Never give your power to anyone else.” ― Dr. Brian Weiss