If you want to be a happier person and have more peace of mind, you need to learn to let go of your ego, negative thoughts, and anger. Here are 6 things you can learn from the Dalai Lama:
1) Think of everyone you meet as a young child
When you imagine the people you meet as small children, it will be easier for you to be more patient, compassionate, and understanding. Instead of immediately lashing out or blaming them for doing something that upset you, you will be able to take some time to reflect and respond in a calm manner.
2) When you’ve got nothing nice to say, learn to say nothing at all
When you’re upset or angry, you tend to say things that you may regret later. Instead of doing that, try to take some time to really think about the situation and figure out the best way to respond. We don’t need to make others feel worse just because they made us feel bad. You can always share your feelings calmly, without using words that would hurt people.
3) Remember that everyone you meet is fighting their own battle
Never be too quick to judge people. Everyone has their own problems to deal with. Learn to be kind and try to be more considerate towards others. The world does not revolve around you, so always remember that it’s not all about you. Avoid gossiping about your friends, family members, or colleagues. You don’t know what they’re really going through in life.
4) Don’t sweat the small stuff
Let action in the present, not anxiety for your future, preoccupy your energies. Don’t worry too much about the future and try to live in the present. Worrying will not change anything, so stop wasting your energy on things that you can’t control. Get rid of the ‘what-if’s and focus on what you can do right now instead.
5) Choose the thoughts that serve you
Forget about those that don’t. Stop dwelling or focusing on negative things and replace them with positive thoughts. It will make a lot of difference and you will be a happier person if you practice it daily. Instead of telling yourself, “I can’t,” start saying “I can.” Believe that you are strong enough, talented enough, and good enough.
6) Be yourself (the best version)
It’s not enough to just be your authentic self. It’s important to keep striving to be the very best version of yourself. No one is perfect and we are all just a work in progress. Embrace this and let yourself grow as a person. Learn new things, be nice to people, and try to master the art of patience. It will increase your peace of mind and make you a better person.
“My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.” — Dalai Lama