Many of us are influenced into thinking saying yes is always the right thing to do, but that’s not the case. We are programmed into thinking saying yes is seen as positive where else saying no could make you seem like a negative person. Here are 5 benefits of saying no at work and in your personal life.
Allow you to be honest
Saying no allows you to be honest about your feelings. If you don’t want to go to that concert or be involved in that project, you need to speak up. Tell them no because you have other commitments. Don’t feel guilty about saying no or think you owe the other party an elaborate explanation. A simple thank you for the invite and tell them you are declining because you have other commitments will do the trick.
Many people are forced into participating in events or projects simply because they can’t say no. We want to be people pleasers, but courtesy can only get us so far before we resent ourselves and the other party for making us do things we don’t want to. Saying no means, you place importance on your feelings and needs, and that can be empowering. Saying no can build your confidence in the long run and empower you to take control of your time and ultimately the course of your life.
Mean yes to other things
Some are not able to say no because they are afraid they will miss out and that’s a wrong perception. Saying no to things you aren’t passionate about means leaving room for saying yes to things you really like or want to participate in. So, the next time you find yourself wanting to say yes because you don’t want to miss out, remind yourself that saying no now means saying yes to something else in the near future.
Leave room to focus on priorities
When you often say yes to side projects or helping out, you are missing out on your own priorities. Saying no frees up your time to allow you to focus on your list of priorities. Too many interruptions at work will disrupt your flow on a current task, and it takes time to get back to where you were. In able to make a proper impact at work and home, you need to focus on your priorities before saying yes to others’. This might mean saying no to helping a colleague again who often starts his project last minute and saying yes to that hair appointment you have planned two weeks in advance.
Give others a chance to say yes
When you say no, it actually allows others a chance to step up and take up the challenge at work. This way, you allow others an opportunity to grow while you focus on your priorities. In this sense, everyone wins.
Monica Leong is a storyteller at heart. Graduated with a Journalism and Public Relations degree, she is currently working in corporate communications and also contributes as a freelance writer and editor. Before entering the corporate world, she worked in female lifestyle magazines such as Marie Claire, CLEO, and PEARL as an editor and a features writer. Monica is passionate about writing and working on a short story and flash fiction anthology.