It’s normal to feel insecure sometimes, but too much of it can harm you in many ways – be it at work, in relationships, or life in general. It’s dangerous to always feel like you’re not good enough because without self-confidence and a healthy self-esteem, you will end up settling for less. If you don’t want to be treated like a doormat or let people take you for granted, you need change your mindset. Here are 4 ways to get rid of your insecurities:
1) Stop having unrealistic expectations
Maybe you feel like you’re not good enough because you have unrealistic expectations. Avoid thinking “if only you were more attractive, creative, or intelligent.” No one is perfect, so just be comfortable with who you are. Instead of putting yourself down, you can always do something about it. Learn new skills if you think it can build your confidence. Go to the gym if you’ve always wanted to lose weight.
2) Let go of past criticisms
If your parents called you unreliable while you were growing up or an ex-boss thought you were incompetent, you have to let it go. Don’t carry past criticisms around because it will damage your self-esteem and have an impact on the way you see yourself. Try to leave the negative comments behind and re-invent yourself if you have to. Always remember that you are not what people say or think you are. You can be whoever you want to be.
3) Practice self-approval
You don’t need to look for approval from others to feel good about yourself. The only thing that matters is how you see yourself. Give yourself compliments, even for accomplishing the smallest things. Allow yourself to feel good. Try to look in the mirror every day and actually like what you see. Learn to accept your imperfections and embrace your flaws. It may take a while to master, but once you’re used to it, you will feel like a whole new person. Until that happens, just fake it till you make it.
4) Focus on the positives
If you keep dwelling on all the reasons you think you’re not good enough, you will never grow as a person or get what you deserve. Replace your negative thoughts with positive ones. Think about all the good things you like about yourself and forget about the things you don’t. Try to tell yourself something positive each day and value yourself more. Believe that you are strong, enough, and important.
Danila was a magazine writer focused on lifestyle topics and a communications specialist in the telecommunications industry where her work was published or broadcast via several offline and online media channels before shifting to freelance writing. Besides writing, she enjoys travel, taking photos, and reading.