Once in a while, we fall into a pit of helplessness. All hope seems lost and no matter how hard you try, the situation get any better. Sometimes, these things happen more than once you can sort of predict the outcome. You stop trying to do anything (thanks to your past experience with similar situations) leading to a state of learned helplessness. In some situations, there will be people making you feel like there’s nothing you can do. Now know this, NOT ALL HOPE IS LOST. Here are 3 things to remind yourself when you feel like all hope is lost to get back up on your feet and kick yourself out of learned helplessness.
Change comes from within
Change comes from within. You are in control of your actions and mentality. You must first learn to take responsibility of your situation before attempting to change it, no matter who or what would have caused it. Helplessness has a funny way of making you feel like you are not in control of a situation. We attribute the situation to an external locus of control. For example, I will never stop being anxious because my parents were both anxious all the time. No! You can stop being anxious and there are many self-help books, workshops and articles to help you stop being anxious all the time. You can impact the outcome
Never be afraid to ask for help
Human beings, like I’ve mentioned numerous times are fallible. Sometimes we make mistake and we are definitely far from perfection. But together, we are strong. At times, the one unaffected by a situation may be able to come up with better ideas because during a stressful situation, our usual train of thoughts or efficiency could be disrupted. Never be afraid or shy to ask for help. You have nothing to lose asking for help. In fact, when you do not ask for help is when you may actually lose something.
This is just temporary
Everything happens for a reason. No negative situation lasts long. What you are going through now is temporary and it will stop when you want it to stop. No you are not unlucky nor is this karma. It is perhaps just the timing, or repercussions of your/someone else’s actions. Remain positive and think happy thoughts, it will be over before you know it.
Once again, remember that you are in control of your life. Do not let anyone else dictate how you should lead your life. Now, get back up on your feet!
Kiirtaara is a proud 24 year old Malaysian from the small town of Ipoh. She is a Bachelor of Psychology (Hons) graduate and is currently a part-time freelance writer with a full time job. She is also a huge mental-health enthusiast and avid animal lover.