It’s probably safe to say that deep inside everyone yearns to be loved by someone. We want to feel safe, appreciated, and cared for. But sometimes we fall in love for the wrong reasons and when things fall apart, we wonder why nothing ever works out with anyone. If you think you can relate, perhaps it’s time for you take a step back and ponder. Here are 14 signs you’re not ready for a real relationship:
You love the idea of being in love
You just want to be in love and tend to fall for anyone who comes along, even if they aren’t exactly your type. You develop feelings for someone too quickly and always rush into things.
You think a relationship is everything
You would sacrifice all your time, individuality, family and friends just to be in a relationship. You don’t mind putting your own interests aside just to keep someone interested in you.
You’re emotionally unavailable
You’re emotionally closed off and incapable of being vulnerable with anyone. You would rather have a fake “relationship” than share your biggest fears, hopes, and dreams.
You want to be rescued
You think that all your problems will be solved once you find someone. You only feel confident enough to pursue your goals when you have a partner.
You’re only happy when you have someone
You feel restless and uneasy when you’re single. You feel completely empty and unimportant. You depend on someone else to make you feel happy.
You think you can change your partner
You just want to have someone in your life and believe that people can always change if they love you enough or care about you.
You only go for superficial qualities
You look for a partner who is successful, rich, good-looking or beautiful. In other words, what is outside is more important to you than a person’s actual character.
You spend more time looking for love than nurturing yourself
You spend hours on dating sites and apps than your own interests or yourself. You think finding your soulmate is the most important thing in your life.
You’re too independent
You are so used to being on alone and doing your own things. You tend to give the wrong impression by highlighting you don’t need anyone to survive in this world.
You still carry excess baggage from your past
You can’t stop thinking about the one who got away or you’re still talking to your ex. You still have feelings for them and hope you can get back together.
You have serious trust issues
You have been hurt before and you have a hard time trusting anyone. You are skeptical when people are nice to you. Instead of appreciating their efforts, you question their motives.
You feel pressured
All your friends are married or in a relationship and you feel left behind. You feel like you need to catch up in order to fit in.
You can’t be your true, authentic self
You find it extremely difficult to be yourself with anyone. You put up a facade and only show a gist of who you really are, fearing that they might not like what they see.
You’re not happy in life
You think your life is a mess and you feel lost. You believe that you’re nothing but a failure and you can’t seem to figure out what you should do to have a happier life.
Danila was a magazine writer focused on lifestyle topics and a communications specialist in the telecommunications industry where her work was published or broadcast via several offline and online media channels before shifting to freelance writing. Besides writing, she enjoys travel, taking photos, and reading.